I had tea with a friend some weeks ago (he loves his tea and I love my bites, hehehe), we talked about a number of things as he sought to pick my opinion on various issues at hand. I obviously desired to hear his opinions too especially on the topic of dating and relationships.
I asked him why he has never dated and he had a mouthful to say;
“ because I don`t want to play with any girls heart.I want my words to have meaning to the one I choose to settle down with.
I don`t use endearments like dear, honey, boo or bae as they don`t easily roll off my tongue buh also because they are secretly kept for my ONE. I would be termed old school in most people`s lenses however, I am simply being true to myself and `HER’. I desire that every word I use she will believe it.
When I say she is my sugar, spice, honey and boo; she will believe every letter as it slips from my mouth. I never want her to doubt me or my words. Each word must carry great weight of meaning .
I refrain from touching any girl in a way I wouldn`t touch my sister because I don`t want to be misunderstood. I want my touch to be pure and leave nothing to chance. I want my touch on her to be firm, loving, tender ,protective-all these in just a simple touch.
In my singleness, I have put up boundaries which are not necessarily for the ladies I interact with but for ME. Funny,huh!!!. The boundary lines of Uganda are for Uganda to protect her territory. I will text with my lady friends however, I don`t want them to misunderstand me; so I keep my guard up. NO loose talk that will allow them to read in between the lines. I want the ONE to have no reason to remind me to put up my boundaries because she sees them clearly defined ;so do her friends and my friends.
The lines must be clear for all to see and respect; where there are no boundaries abuse is inevitable.
To my fellow men out there, protect each woman you meet. Don`t allow her to have a bad conception about all men. A statement has been coined, “all men are dogs’’ and I disagree not all men are dogs. Women in our lives need to be protected from unkind words, touches, stares, treatment that is not respectful.
Preserve each lady you meet; treat her with the respect she deserves and she doesn`t have to be the ONE for you to be moved to compassion and proper treatment.
Each lady is a queen, treat her as royalty while in that taxi , at the bank queue, voting lines, downtown traffic…….”
I couldn`t agree more with this rare specie of a man…..our tea moment was beyond words special and he got me praying for all our men to harbor such a message.