Wedding Tales One:Speeches At Weddings

I have attended so many weddings between 2015-2018 sometimes as a brides maids and other times as a support system😂😂. If there is such a thing😅😅

One thing that always bothered me were the speeches.What should be included in the speeches??We have speeches from friends,employers,siblings,parents and the “bagole.” Usually, people give embarrassing stories that speak of the bride/groom`s sex escapades, devious ways,health conditions, diet issues which have no place at the wedding in my opinion.

I was honored to give a speech at my friend’s wedding.For months ,I wondered what to say.I wanted to give funny stories about her,not embarrassing ones though.I believe the aim is not to embarrass but to show her strengths and fun side.

I settled for stories that described and affirmed Agatha.Filled the speech with prophetic declarations over her and her hubby.

I have known Agatha for 13 years and wish her nothing but God’s best. Speech was over within 5 minutes or less. hahaha!!!The siblings and parents speeches definitely affirmed her character.

I loved the theme of the speeches and I believe that all speeches at weddings should be nothing short of that.

Have you given a speech at a wedding before,what did you say?

Brides gown: Penny Bold bridal

Make up : Makeup By Agy

©Racheal Kizza 2018

Book review 14: How to be happy though married

Book title: How to be happy though married

Pages:160

Author:Tim LaHaye

I am not married yet 😅 but this didn’t stop me from devouring this book. Tim LaHaye is a pastor and counsellor who openly discusses issues on how two Christians can write and overcome their issues in a practical manner.

The book is centered on how two Christians unite to form one spiritual, emotional, and physical body .Each chapter explores a key, giving scriptural backup,counselling experiences and realities,sealing it with research.

The keys include; opposite attract where he explores various temperaments (more on this in his book,spirit controlled temperaments).couples ought to know their temperament and understand it.

Key 2: Forget yourself.My favorite quote ,”do you want your wife to treat you like a king?then treat her like a queen!!”

“Most counsellors acknowledge three basic areas of marital adjustment -mental,physical and spiritual.Proper adjustment in each of these areas is necessary to create a well rounded marriage.”

The author raises must answered questions, “how do you socialise when married?is appearance important in marriage?how much information to give away to outsiders?how to raise children,church to go to and so much more. He offers answers and real examples from various couples he has counselled which makes the book very practical.

He takes time to talk candidly about sex,goes to length to give a detailed explanation of how the male and female body behaves during sex.

This book is highly educative with a balance of research from various authors and the greatest author -God. Being a Christian,the Bible verses and revelation put perspective on each point.

I highly recommend this book to all those courting and intending to marry, marrieds,marrieds mentoring other young couples. This can be used as a study book.

I recommend it for ladies who need perspective on information they get in bridal showers, relationship conferences.

Book image: bookdepository.com

To Men :Don`t be misunderstood

I had tea with a friend some weeks ago (he loves his tea and I love my bites, hehehe), we talked about a number of things as he sought to pick my opinion on various issues at hand. I obviously desired to hear his opinions too especially on the topic of dating and relationships.

I asked him why he has never dated and he had a mouthful to say;

“ because I don`t want to play with any girls heart.I want my words to have meaning to the one I choose to settle down with.

I don`t use endearments like dear, honey, boo or bae as they don`t easily roll off my tongue buh also because they are secretly kept for my ONE. I would be termed old school in most people`s lenses however, I am simply being true to myself and `HER’. I desire that every word I use she will believe it.

When I say she is my sugar, spice, honey and boo; she will believe every letter as it slips from my mouth. I never want her to doubt me or my words. Each word must carry great weight of meaning .

I refrain from touching any girl in a way I wouldn`t touch my sister because I don`t want to be misunderstood. I want my touch to be pure and leave nothing to chance. I want my touch on her to be firm, loving, tender ,protective-all these in just a simple touch.

In my singleness, I have put up boundaries which are not necessarily for the ladies I interact with but for ME. Funny,huh!!!. The boundary lines of Uganda are for Uganda to protect her territory. I will text with my lady friends however, I don`t want them to misunderstand me; so I keep my guard up. NO loose talk that will allow them to read in between the lines. I want the ONE to have no reason to remind me to put up my boundaries because she sees them clearly defined ;so do her friends and my friends.

The lines must be clear for all to see and respect; where there are no boundaries abuse is inevitable.

To my fellow men out there, protect each woman you meet. Don`t allow her to have a bad conception about all men. A statement has been coined, “all men are dogs’’ and I disagree not all men are dogs. Women in our lives need to be protected from unkind words, touches, stares, treatment that is not respectful.

Preserve each lady you meet; treat her with the respect she deserves and she doesn`t have to be the ONE for you to be moved to compassion and proper treatment.

Each lady is a queen, treat her as royalty while  in that taxi , at the bank queue, voting lines, downtown traffic…….”

I couldn`t agree more with this rare specie of a man…..our tea moment was beyond words special and he got me praying for all our men to harbor such a message.