Day 13 of #BOTY2019: Lesson learned

I have come to believe that there are lessons laced in every person,situation, and whatever we go through. The lesson could be good or bad. Question for you the reader,are there bad lessons?

This year in November,I turned 28,such a big number. I blogged about my lessons here-https://rachealkizza.wordpress.com/2019/11/29/27-onto-28/

From that blog, my biggest lesson,turned mantra is ,Don`t criticize what you aren`t  doing and can`t do. Appreciate the fact that someone woke up and did their thing. Hope you are doing yours too.

I`m curious to know what lessons 2019 has offered you. Please share in the comment section.

Taking Stock 11

Making: Plans. I’m a planner to the dot and I love it.

Eating: nothing special in particular.

Drinking: lots of rosemary tea.

Reading: Travelers by Helon Habila .Ps. He will be at Writivism from August,15th-August,18th at the National theatre.

Wanting: to scream and a gateaway .

Playing: music and sermons all day. My earphones have been loyal.😂😂

Wasting:no time on negative people in my life & social timelines.

Creating: time to read.

Wishing: for quick results in everything

Enjoying : books and more books. I have read 7 books this month👏👏👏

Wondering: why my sort of personality won’t allow me to be quiet in a corner when I get into a place. 😂😂😥😥

Loving: spiritual things.

Hoping:for a shift

Marveling: at spiritual things.

Smelling: mum’s body spray -cherry blossom

Wearing:my natural hair out

Following: Rabbi Daniel Malinga. His fellowship happens every Friday at 6:00pm at Silver Springs hotel, Bugolobi. He is a teacher of the word and I’m happy to learn from him always.

Noticing:how my natural hair is loving the Nissi hair products.

Knowing: that you can’t criticize what you’re not doing. Period.

Bookmarking: a particular quote from a friend, “Trust God with people and their processes. ”

Feeling: I can’t put it into words.

Shift in August,

Love on Love

Kizza❤️

©RachealKizza 2019

Taking Stock Seven

Making: more time for my thoughts

Eating: All manner of things but I tried out this yogurt at Yogusserie two days ago and I loved it.

Drinking: Chai mukalu with no sugar. Real mukalu😂 because I like it like that.

Reading: All Louise Bay novels. Though now that March is here, I am getting off this adrenaline rush.

Wanting:To attend Royal sisterhood at Worship Harvest Naalya. Some of the speakers are Moses Mukisa, Beatrice Byemanzi & wait for it, Eunice Adubango.

Playing: wide as the sky, a song by Matt Redman

Wasting: no time in pity parties.

Creating:content that makes me happy

Wishing: for Lebanese food. As I read I am Mathob, she spoke of Lebanese food as being so delicious and how every must try it out. Being a foodie , I put it on my to do list(recommend places in Ug)

Enjoying: reading books more than ever

Wondering: about Zambia. I want to go there for no reason.

Loving:my reading momentum. I have read over 10 books this month alone

Hoping: March brings me God’s very best

Marvelling: at how we think we are insignificant simply because we are focusing on people we feel are ‘significant’ because they have 1000 or a million plus likes on social media.

Smelling: oranges because I got the flue bug and oranges do the trick.

Wearing: my natural hair out

Following: Sarah Jakes Roberts, this lady is on a mission and her shine gives me light to shine.

Noticing: how we reap what we sow.

Knowing: that my besties and I will meet up in March(S and V this is me saying, I’mma hunt you down😂😂😂)

Bookmarking: quotes from I am Mathob by Mahtob Mahmoody (a must read for everyone)

Opening: up to memories from the past. Trying to understand them and me now. Is there a connection? 🤔🤔

Giggling: about my nephew’s reactions to being denied things he wants.

Feeling:happy, extremely happy. I need to learn contentment in March.

Happy March,

Love on Love

Kizza❤️

©Racheal Kizza 2019

Book review 14: How to be happy though married

Book title: How to be happy though married

Pages:160

Author:Tim LaHaye

I am not married yet 😅 but this didn’t stop me from devouring this book. Tim LaHaye is a pastor and counsellor who openly discusses issues on how two Christians can write and overcome their issues in a practical manner.

The book is centered on how two Christians unite to form one spiritual, emotional, and physical body .Each chapter explores a key, giving scriptural backup,counselling experiences and realities,sealing it with research.

The keys include; opposite attract where he explores various temperaments (more on this in his book,spirit controlled temperaments).couples ought to know their temperament and understand it.

Key 2: Forget yourself.My favorite quote ,”do you want your wife to treat you like a king?then treat her like a queen!!”

“Most counsellors acknowledge three basic areas of marital adjustment -mental,physical and spiritual.Proper adjustment in each of these areas is necessary to create a well rounded marriage.”

The author raises must answered questions, “how do you socialise when married?is appearance important in marriage?how much information to give away to outsiders?how to raise children,church to go to and so much more. He offers answers and real examples from various couples he has counselled which makes the book very practical.

He takes time to talk candidly about sex,goes to length to give a detailed explanation of how the male and female body behaves during sex.

This book is highly educative with a balance of research from various authors and the greatest author -God. Being a Christian,the Bible verses and revelation put perspective on each point.

I highly recommend this book to all those courting and intending to marry, marrieds,marrieds mentoring other young couples. This can be used as a study book.

I recommend it for ladies who need perspective on information they get in bridal showers, relationship conferences.

Book image: bookdepository.com

Hosting tips 101

Ever had people crushing over at your place for a few days,weeks,a month or two,years?
I have been hosted before by friends and I have learnt a couple of things about hosting people. There are hosting Dynamics and today Rachel and I share tips on how to be a good host.These tips are in no particular order.

+Always know your people.What do they like to eat,what are they allergic to.This helps to plan better for their stay.

+Plan!plan ahead for their coming.Stock whatever you need to stock for their stay.

+Don’t change your menu for your guests.Make adjustments depending on who likes what but don’t do a 360 on your menu.This might be costly and draining as well on your pocket,house help if you have one or yourself too.

+Take/accept the help.The more people in the house, there is multiplication of house chores.Incase a guest asks to help out ,let them help.

+Ask for help.Remember some of these guests,like to work and if African ,they have been trained to work and might be uncomfortable sitting all day.Ask them for help.This helps you bond and you could learn something new about each other.

+You are bound to meet people of various cultures.don’t be alarmed.

+For guests who stay for long;months or years, purposefully involve them in the house chores and activities.If you go by a rota include them that way they appreciate and are part of the family and it also lifts the burden off of you to do everything. Everyone has to have some form of responsibility.

+It is important to know how long a guest is staying, especially if you are in a family setting, that way there is no uncertainty and family members are well prepared. Guests who stay for Ununspecified days can easily feel like a burden and there could be the anxiety of how long is the person staying.To avoid such discomfort and uncertainity,it is good to know the length of the stay.

+Be ready to be vulnerable.This comes with letting someone in your space.Be yourself and don’t adjust your lives completely. Let the guest adjust to your system (this can be added to the menu as well)

+It is great to learn from your guests as well, as much as it is your house, your rules, try to involve some of their ways especially if they are from a different culture. You could ask them to cook a common dish of theirs or show you how they do their things. This way the guest feels appreciated and is able to involve a part of them in the family

+When a guest does something wrong or off, it is OK and right to tell them directly and in a kind and polite way. It is so easy to find yourselves discussing the guest behind their back with other family members yet the issue would have easily been resolved by speaking to them. This can also breed contempt and ruin the whole experience.

+Always consult with your family members before agreeing to host someone, that way they are prepared cause even if you are the one taking care of most of the things, they have a right to know and agree as their space will be invaded/interrupted

+Considering all the above, it is actually OK to say no to hosting someone, it doesn’t make you a bad person, it does take grace and quite some work, so be willing to give 100% rather than say yes and your heart is not in it. Whatsoever you do,do it with all diligence as unto the Lord and not man.

This post was co-authored by Racheal Atieno-my Kenyan sister,who has hosted me and so many other people at her home in Nairobi over the years. It is right to say her home is international 😂😂.

Kindly leave your views in the comment section.

Photo credit: Gakosun Photography

©Racheal Kizza 2018

Nzuri Textures

This month I get to share with y’all my favorite sites to go to for a little inspiration in hair,makeup,food,fashion and style.Today we focus on a blog run by two beau-ti-ful ladies,they are Team Natural and today they share with us their journey .

1.What is Nzuri textures and how long has it been running?

Nzuri Textures is a platform created by two natural hair enthusiasts, to show women how they can find beauty in having their hair in their natural state. In Uganda there are not so many platforms that teach and guide people on natural hair. The beauty bloggers on the internet show how they manage hair using international branded products. Unfortunately, we dont have access to those products.So Nzuri Textures strives to teach Ugandans how to handle their hair, with the products accessible to them. We have been running Nzuri Textures for 6 months now.

2.Who are the faces behind Nzuri textures?

Nzuri Textures is edited by Rowena Lubowa and Lydia Kahuga, who love everything natural.

3.How do you balance running a blog alongside your everyday jobs,being lawyers is no easy task?

Well, we cant say we are experts at this. But we make really good use of planners. We make time for the photoshoots and the editing of articles. Basically the trick is in planning and sticking to the plans.

4.Achievements since blog formation

Having a readership that learns from us and values the information that we give them

5.Lessons learnt since blog formation.

+ It’s hard to achieve something that you want,unless you make time for it.

+Listen to your readership and deliver content that they can relate to

6.Tips for natural hair sisters .

Avoid heat and enjoy water (drinking it and spraying it in your hair)

7.People /brands you would love to work with.

Brands: Kentaro, Movit, Kweli skin organics

People: Imigani, Third Local

8 .If you were an animal,what would it be?

Rowena: butterfly

Lydia : Gazelle

9.social media sites.

Blog :www.nzuritextures.com

Instagram: @nzuri_textures

Twitter: @nzuritextures

Photo credit:Nzuri Textures.

©Racheal Kizza 2017

Soul Touch International

 “​​​​​​​​The local church is the hope of the world’-Bill Hybells. This simply means , the church is a solution to the problems the world`s experiencing.  Meet Soul Touch International whose priority is to be church to the vulnerable children in slums around Kampala.

1. Who is Soul Touch?

Soul Touch International is a registered Christian organisation that was initiated by a group of university students in 2011; under the leadership of Ronald Amanya to respond to God`s call to preach the gospel and help needy children in slums, believing that every sinner can turn into a saint and every slave can become a master given time and opportunity. We focus on gospel missions, student outreach and child care. Child care is handled under the  soul care project.

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Founding team back in 2011 (Ronald Amanya ,seated between the two ladies on the grass)    Photo source: Soul Touch International

2. How do you get the kids under soul care project?

They are recommended by a school, church, police or organizations in the community. The soul care team follows up the child in order to get full recommendation from the local council of that community and then the family`s consent. Parents need to give us permission to take on their children .

We take on kids who are deemed to be needy, vulnerable or less advantaged from the slum communities of Katanga, Bwaise, Kasokoso, Kawala and Mulago. We register children between 5-9 years. The idea is to evolve with them upto university level.

 3. How many kids did you start with in 2011 and how many do you have currently?

We started with only 2 children (Paul and Denis) from Katanga who were not attending school at that time because their parents lacked school fees and other scholastic materials.

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Paul & Denis, the pioneer children

We currently have 30 children  under our Soul care project .They are all enrolled into various Nursery and Primary schools for example Batvalley, Buganda road, St.Martin, Kawala Junior,and many others.

4.What more do you offer the children besides school fees and taking care of their school needs?

  • Mentor-ship where we connect them with mentors who can inspire them to fulfill their dreams.
  • Family empowerment involves helping the parents of the children start up their own small businesses so they are able to sustain their families. It also involves visiting with the families and praying with them to ten to their emotional and spiritual needs.

5.Challenges Soul Touch has  faced since it’s inception.

  • Financial constraints since the budget expenses are always high especially when school begins.
  • Fundraising is tedious since the term Ngos and money has over the years received a bad reputation.
  • Rent since we have to maintain an official address.
  • Soul Touch International  is a growing organisation with most of our staff being  volunteers who are not easy to depend on as their commitment and experience is not reliable.

6. What are your sustainability plans?

  • In partnership with Makerere Palliative care unit,we started a piggery project in Wakiso which can partly support the organisation.
  • We have started teaching our children to make crafts which we will in turn sell off .

7.How can people partner with Soul Touch International?

  • Sponsor a child at only 70,000 or 20 USD.
  • Be a mentor to a child
  • Volunteer with us
  • Donate any amount of money monthly or annually.

8.Where is Soul Touch International  located?

Location: Makerere Kikoni near canani land

Website: http://www.soultouchinternational.org

Email:info@soultouchinternational

Facebook:Soul Touch International or soul care project

Twitter: SoulTouch_UG

Tel: +256706535283/+256785853134

Put a P in it

 

 

 

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October  has generously swung its doors wide open for me already and I have coined a theme,“Living expectantly.” BECAUSE I AM….

I had a meeting with two amazing ladies(Vicks as I call her and Anitah), amazing writers that have graced this earth in our generation. The meet up was centered on a project we are collaborating on in the writing sphere.

So Anita suggested a visit to the museum *silence* since I personally hadn`t been inside the museum in years. Vicks and I were not up for the idea as there is nothing much to see and write about in our Uganda museum . However, there is something Anita said that for a moment had my mind working on this very piece.

“Go through the museum with a new perspective-a mature perspective, you just might find inspiration.’’

All you need is to put a P in it-Perspective ; which simply means,“ a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.’’

This October set out to put a P in every situation. Have a new perspective on life, your friends, job,Uganda and Africa at large. This will hep us delve into opportunities other than shying away , restore and mend friendships just by seeing things from  different lens.

Don`t get me wrong, this doesn`t mean you forget your principles ,in any case carry them with you however just see things from a different perspective-you will learn something.

Look and live through October with a new perspective and I believe it will be a great month for you.

Mirror ,mirror on the wall

Girls are constantly reminded that a mirror is a must have in your bag, room, rest rooms and every where else. The mirror is major job is to reflect images and that has never changed. As I watched snow white and the hunts man, the evil queen`s mirror sparked off this piece.

I loved the classic snow white and the 7 dwarfs story and my young mind could not comprehend her beauty. What sort of beauty was this that made her top the queen`s list of most wanted people? I wonder who Elle or Marie Claire magazine would       compare to Snow white among the Hollywood celebrities or even our own Ugandan   celebrities.... I know many girls today would kill to be on the evil queen`s list with a tagline, ``wanted for being more beautiful than the queen.'*loool* 

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The current re-make of snow white and the 7 dwarfs is “snow white and the huntsman.” Forget the fact that the huntsman is  Chris Hemsworth ; the movie is quite thrilling and had me hooked and here is why…..
The evil queen has a mirror  and constantly asks the mirror just one question.
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The  mirror always said, “you my queen are the fairest of them all ” queen is obsessed with her beauty that she believed no one should be fairer than her as if that is even possible, with the tagline that the beautiful ones are not yet born, hehehe. The queen was cursed to be this way-vanity just like the book of Ecclesiastes says. On one occasion, the mirror told her another is fairer than her, the evil queen decided in her heart to kill snow white.

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Many of us like the evil queen  are constantly probing and seeking for validation from mirrors in our lives.Mirrors are just a representation of  people,achievements,careers,marriages,education, sense of style,etc that validate us. We attach identity to them yet they are perishable and  when they don`t fill that emptiness, we feel lost and empty.

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The need to be validated by people, social media, academic papers, marriage, etc can be frustrating and leaves one with a void.Our validation should  come from the holy book as we flip each page . It reflects our true self to us as we behold our maker. The holy book is the only mirror that reflects your true self back at you. It seeks to reveal you to who you are-who your maker says you and not what Aunt Lala or John say you are.

Behold the word of God each day, let it transform you as it reveals you to who you are without frustrating you. It fills you and covers your emptiness. Delve deeper into the word and watch you meet you because a mirror reflects you.

There is no way around growing and functioning in your identity apart from God. Go deeper each day.

#Which mirror are you viewing yourself  through today?

To Men :Don`t be misunderstood

I had tea with a friend some weeks ago (he loves his tea and I love my bites, hehehe), we talked about a number of things as he sought to pick my opinion on various issues at hand. I obviously desired to hear his opinions too especially on the topic of dating and relationships.

I asked him why he has never dated and he had a mouthful to say;

“ because I don`t want to play with any girls heart.I want my words to have meaning to the one I choose to settle down with.

I don`t use endearments like dear, honey, boo or bae as they don`t easily roll off my tongue buh also because they are secretly kept for my ONE. I would be termed old school in most people`s lenses however, I am simply being true to myself and `HER’. I desire that every word I use she will believe it.

When I say she is my sugar, spice, honey and boo; she will believe every letter as it slips from my mouth. I never want her to doubt me or my words. Each word must carry great weight of meaning .

I refrain from touching any girl in a way I wouldn`t touch my sister because I don`t want to be misunderstood. I want my touch to be pure and leave nothing to chance. I want my touch on her to be firm, loving, tender ,protective-all these in just a simple touch.

In my singleness, I have put up boundaries which are not necessarily for the ladies I interact with but for ME. Funny,huh!!!. The boundary lines of Uganda are for Uganda to protect her territory. I will text with my lady friends however, I don`t want them to misunderstand me; so I keep my guard up. NO loose talk that will allow them to read in between the lines. I want the ONE to have no reason to remind me to put up my boundaries because she sees them clearly defined ;so do her friends and my friends.

The lines must be clear for all to see and respect; where there are no boundaries abuse is inevitable.

To my fellow men out there, protect each woman you meet. Don`t allow her to have a bad conception about all men. A statement has been coined, “all men are dogs’’ and I disagree not all men are dogs. Women in our lives need to be protected from unkind words, touches, stares, treatment that is not respectful.

Preserve each lady you meet; treat her with the respect she deserves and she doesn`t have to be the ONE for you to be moved to compassion and proper treatment.

Each lady is a queen, treat her as royalty while  in that taxi , at the bank queue, voting lines, downtown traffic…….”

I couldn`t agree more with this rare specie of a man…..our tea moment was beyond words special and he got me praying for all our men to harbor such a message.