Who is teaching you responsibility?

Dear boys 2 men,

Who is teaching you responsibility?

Who is teaching you how to treat the ladies in your lives?
Who is teaching you how to behave on dates? (I am not talking about opening car doors here.if you do it, awesome,if you don’t,it’s OK)
Who is teaching you how to disagree but not beat up that woman in your life?

Who is teaching you how to go about proposals?
Who is teaching you how to be a present friend, husband,father, grandfather?
who is teaching you the basics of manhood?
Who are you having your manhood conversations with?

Who are you vulnerable with?(I know in our society,you’ve been told to man up. “abasajja tebakaba,” but that’s not even scriptural, Jesus wept openly)
Who are you showing your nakedness?Who is walking the marriage journey with you?Who is teaching you responsibility?

Who is teaching you how to protect your “Chic,kyana” physically,mentally,emotionally, spiritually and financially?
Who is teaching you not to have premarital sex to prove your manhood?

Who is teaching you parenting?some of you get kids while at campus, after campus and there in between and have no idea where to start from hence ,choosing irresponsibility.perhaps if you knew better,you would do better.perhaps.

Who is sharpening you? ``As iron sharpens iron,So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” Proverbs 27:17 (NKJV)

Who is affirming you? Who is speaking wisdom to you?

Who is praying with and for you?

Who is rebuking you?

Tell me,Who is teaching you?

Who is holding your hand and showing you the way to go?

Who is teaching you how to lead and be led?

Who is teaching you responsibility in every form?

 

Kuteesa

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Comment below with a man ,men or group of men who are teaching you responsibility.

To Men :Don`t be misunderstood

I had tea with a friend some weeks ago (he loves his tea and I love my bites, hehehe), we talked about a number of things as he sought to pick my opinion on various issues at hand. I obviously desired to hear his opinions too especially on the topic of dating and relationships.

I asked him why he has never dated and he had a mouthful to say;

“ because I don`t want to play with any girls heart.I want my words to have meaning to the one I choose to settle down with.

I don`t use endearments like dear, honey, boo or bae as they don`t easily roll off my tongue buh also because they are secretly kept for my ONE. I would be termed old school in most people`s lenses however, I am simply being true to myself and `HER’. I desire that every word I use she will believe it.

When I say she is my sugar, spice, honey and boo; she will believe every letter as it slips from my mouth. I never want her to doubt me or my words. Each word must carry great weight of meaning .

I refrain from touching any girl in a way I wouldn`t touch my sister because I don`t want to be misunderstood. I want my touch to be pure and leave nothing to chance. I want my touch on her to be firm, loving, tender ,protective-all these in just a simple touch.

In my singleness, I have put up boundaries which are not necessarily for the ladies I interact with but for ME. Funny,huh!!!. The boundary lines of Uganda are for Uganda to protect her territory. I will text with my lady friends however, I don`t want them to misunderstand me; so I keep my guard up. NO loose talk that will allow them to read in between the lines. I want the ONE to have no reason to remind me to put up my boundaries because she sees them clearly defined ;so do her friends and my friends.

The lines must be clear for all to see and respect; where there are no boundaries abuse is inevitable.

To my fellow men out there, protect each woman you meet. Don`t allow her to have a bad conception about all men. A statement has been coined, “all men are dogs’’ and I disagree not all men are dogs. Women in our lives need to be protected from unkind words, touches, stares, treatment that is not respectful.

Preserve each lady you meet; treat her with the respect she deserves and she doesn`t have to be the ONE for you to be moved to compassion and proper treatment.

Each lady is a queen, treat her as royalty while  in that taxi , at the bank queue, voting lines, downtown traffic…….”

I couldn`t agree more with this rare specie of a man…..our tea moment was beyond words special and he got me praying for all our men to harbor such a message.