I hope you are preparing yourself to receive all my love for you well. It is not simple love, it is like a tsunami and will swallow you if you are not well prepared to receive it. While we work on the part where you receive my love , here are a few things i would like you to know, not that its a script i want you to follow, but it would ease your life by helping you love me right. I want you to accept me and embrace my weird ! Trust me that is not an easy task. i have those days where i forget to take my medicine and its on such days that i need and want you to understand me most.
I want you to touch me mindlessly while the two of us watch a movie – i don’t want that…
Who is teaching you how to treat the ladies in your lives?
Who is teaching you how to behave on dates? (I am not talking about opening car doors here.if you do it, awesome,if you don’t,it’s OK)
Who is teaching you how to disagree but not beat up that woman in your life?
Who is teaching you how to go about proposals?
Who is teaching you how to be a present friend, husband,father, grandfather?
who is teaching you the basics of manhood?
Who are you having your manhood conversations with?
Who are you vulnerable with?(I know in our society,you’ve been told to man up. “abasajja tebakaba,” but that’s not even scriptural, Jesus wept openly)
Who are you showing your nakedness?Who is walking the marriage journey with you?Who is teaching you responsibility?
Who is teaching you how to protect your “Chic,kyana” physically,mentally,emotionally, spiritually and financially?
Who is teaching you not to have premarital sex to prove your manhood?
Who is teaching you parenting?some of you get kids while at campus, after campus and there in between and have no idea where to start from hence ,choosing irresponsibility.perhaps if you knew better,you would do better.perhaps.
Who is sharpening you? ``As iron sharpens iron,So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.” Proverbs 27:17 (NKJV)
Who is affirming you? Who is speaking wisdom to you?
Who is praying with and for you?
Who is rebuking you?
Tell me,Who is teaching you?
Who is holding your hand and showing you the way to go?
Who is teaching you how to lead and be led?
Who is teaching you responsibility in every form?
Follow Kuteesa Foundation on Facebook ,because they are teaching the boys 2 men in our generation responsibility.
Comment below with a man ,men or group of men who are teaching you responsibility.
Ladies “May you learn that pain and suffering are not and should not be a rite of passage to your femininity. You are not a rehabilitation centre of poorly raised men, as a wise woman once said,bad communicators who can’t give you the basics like loyalty, honor and the respect you deserve.’
I have had my share of failed relationships, flings annndddd wait for it “assumptionships”.
Yes. You read right: An assumed relationship. Growing up, I have found myself dating or seeing guys who enjoy the benefits that come with ‘being seen’ but aren’t really committed to me or ready for relationships.
This guy talks about exclusivity, behaves like a boyfriend, shares intimate moments with you until he suddenly wakes up as though from a dream and decides-
“Wait! This is not what I want, or I have seen ‘better’ or….” the list is endless.
Sadly I have learned that this only means that the time they were ‘dating’ you, they had someone else they ‘would rather commit to’.
I say this in quotes because they never really commit to the other party either but that is a story for another day.
Wasting:no time in making power moves. I am excited to be conquering my fears each day.
Creating:content for my blog and a few social media pages I manage. This has set me on a creative path beyond my wildest dreams. I am enjoying it everyday.
Wishing:I had all the money in the world to solve my friend`s problems as well as my own. If you had all the money in the world what would you do with it?
Enjoying:Reading and creating content. My creative juices are flowing and its exciting.
Wondering:What`s next for Uganda with Hon. Kyagulanyi giving the president and government at large sleepless nights.
Loving:My new job. Yes,I am currently working with African Writers Trust. I am loving everything about new my job.
Hoping:for opportunities to make wealth. I must manifest the wealth and abundance of my Father in Heaven.
Marvelling:at how God strategically places us .He is a mighty God.A God of strategy and tactic.
Smelling:Fresh air. My workplace is in a serene environment and the air is fresh and the atmosphere is perfect for work,reading,creating .What more could I ask for?
Wearing:my natural hair in a protective style. I don’t know what it’s called,but my sister Ronnet created it(not sure from where) and the other sister,Joy executed😂😂.I am just glad I don’t have to think about my hair for a week or two.
Following:Amina Abdi Rabar (https://www.instagram.com/amina_kenya/) on instagram. She is a mum, wife,singer,TV host on the trend and /Radio host on capital FM Kenya,MC. She is literally on every stage right now hosting this and that. I am inspired by her power moves.
Noticing:two things .(1).the signs of rain God is sending my way. I am literally excited for the downpour.Can you see the signs of rain in your situation right now? (2).There is space for each one of us in the world,go ahead and be great.
Knowing: Anyone can get back up from anything,be it scandal,loss of a parent,job,marriage. Ask Tiger Woods.
Bookmarking:Pearls for her,Uganda( https://www.pearlsforherug.com/). This site has amazing content that is real and so Ugandan yet at the same time,international. Makes sense?hehe.
Opening:up to the idea of having a photo shoot. I am toying with the idea. I am also open to the idea of adding a professional flair to my blog,turn it into a rachealkizza.com or No Ordinary Scribbles.com(Whatchu think?Help me decide on this)
Giggling: at Bebe Cool. This guy is interesting.He seems unruffled by the public lash he is getting for supporting the president. He is standing for something at least,right? What are you standing for?Who are you standing with?
Feeling:Fed up with how we treat church as a social club. It’s a place where the lost get found.The sick meet the physician.The broken are covered not exposed. The wounded are healed and restored. Purpose flourishes and LOVE conquers all things,believes all things.
Ever had people crushing over at your place for a few days,weeks,a month or two,years?
I have been hosted before by friends and I have learnt a couple of things about hosting people. There are hosting Dynamics and today Rachel and I share tips on how to be a good host.These tips are in no particular order.
+Always know your people.What do they like to eat,what are they allergic to.This helps to plan better for their stay.
+Plan!plan ahead for their coming.Stock whatever you need to stock for their stay.
+Don’t change your menu for your guests.Make adjustments depending on who likes what but don’t do a 360 on your menu.This might be costly and draining as well on your pocket,house help if you have one or yourself too.
+Take/accept the help.The more people in the house, there is multiplication of house chores.Incase a guest asks to help out ,let them help.
+Ask for help.Remember some of these guests,like to work and if African ,they have been trained to work and might be uncomfortable sitting all day.Ask them for help.This helps you bond and you could learn something new about each other.
+You are bound to meet people of various cultures.don’t be alarmed.
+For guests who stay for long;months or years, purposefully involve them in the house chores and activities.If you go by a rota include them that way they appreciate and are part of the family and it also lifts the burden off of you to do everything. Everyone has to have some form of responsibility.
+It is important to know how long a guest is staying, especially if you are in a family setting, that way there is no uncertainty and family members are well prepared. Guests who stay for Ununspecified days can easily feel like a burden and there could be the anxiety of how long is the person staying.To avoid such discomfort and uncertainity,it is good to know the length of the stay.
+Be ready to be vulnerable.This comes with letting someone in your space.Be yourself and don’t adjust your lives completely. Let the guest adjust to your system (this can be added to the menu as well)
+It is great to learn from your guests as well, as much as it is your house, your rules, try to involve some of their ways especially if they are from a different culture. You could ask them to cook a common dish of theirs or show you how they do their things. This way the guest feels appreciated and is able to involve a part of them in the family
+When a guest does something wrong or off, it is OK and right to tell them directly and in a kind and polite way. It is so easy to find yourselves discussing the guest behind their back with other family members yet the issue would have easily been resolved by speaking to them. This can also breed contempt and ruin the whole experience.
+Always consult with your family members before agreeing to host someone, that way they are prepared cause even if you are the one taking care of most of the things, they have a right to know and agree as their space will be invaded/interrupted
+Considering all the above, it is actually OK to say no to hosting someone, it doesn’t make you a bad person, it does take grace and quite some work, so be willing to give 100% rather than say yes and your heart is not in it. Whatsoever you do,do it with all diligence as unto the Lord and not man.
This post was co-authored by Racheal Atieno-my Kenyan sister,who has hosted me and so many other people at her home in Nairobi over the years. It is right to say her home is international 😂😂.
Making: Tough decisions,that are big and bold. They are definitely scaring me but hey,I am doing it afraid.
Eating: Muesli.It is the perfect breakfast plan. It has Oats, sunflower and sesame seeds, coconut,nuts and raisins. It’s filling,low on calories and gluten free. I have it with strawberry yogurt or milk.
Drinking: Lots of water.I have no skin care routine ,hydration is the way to go.🤸🤸🤸
Reading: David & Goliath by Malcolm GladWell. An amazing book, about underdogs,misfits and the art of battling Giants.
Wanting:To travel.I want to lay in a hammock ,cover my face with a big pink hat,sip on some coconut juice.hehehehe
Playing: Promise keeper by Israel Houghton and Travis Greene .Off Israel’s new it’s on replay.
Wasting: no time in self pity.It leaves you feeling sad, negative,and depressed.In such a state,you can’t celebrate other people’s wins.
Creating: More time to create content for the blog,read and engage in business.
Wishing:I didn’t fear anything.
Wondering:about my life. Growing up is hardwork.
Loving:Hearing my mother pray.This is a sound I could listen to all day.A praying mother is everything.
Hoping:for things to get better.
Marvelling:at God’s goodness.I see Him at work ,lifting people up to high places.
Smelling:Splendor by Elizabeth Arden.This perfume smells of the boss life.
Wearing:heels again.yaaaay!!! Exactly a year after my boda accident.My leg has healed and back to normal.Thank you Jesus.
Following: Malaika Nyanzi.I respect her hustle. Anyone who knows her,I want to meet her😉😉
Noticing:People power.#FreeBobi couldn’t be ignored by the world and our government as well.
Knowing:that not all people will appreciate what they have.
Part 2 is finally here and this will mark the end of Bitature talks on the blog. Part 2 covers the business tips that stood out for me and the ones I am looking to implement. Feel free to pause and think critically on ever point and write down your answers. PS;They are in no particular order.
+Have a plan.You can`t do anything well without a plan. For any business to succeed, you must have a proper plan, short and long term. Never start anything without a plan.
+What product/ service are you offering. You must be sure of what you are offering.Your surety is what sets you apart from the already existing products/services.
+What`s your marketing strategy? Now that your certain about your product/service, what`s your marketing strategy? How ill you get your product/service known?
+Do your research. Know all about your business. The pros and cons, who else is doing it, seasons for the business.
+Keep the business system simple-tailor it to suit you and those your working with.
+Have your accounts straight. I have personally run a business before and one of the things I struggled with was a financial system. I was the law and I got into the habit of using business money to meet my personal needs. Now I know better.
+On partnership in business, partner with people who have what you don`t have. Get people on board who compliment you. They will add flair and spice to the business.
+Find out what your strengths and weaknesses are. These help you to know where to specialize and who to hire for the business.
+On decision making, As the leader in your business, hear other people out and appreciate their opinions. However, make the right decisions for the business.
+Don`t be afraid to experiment. In experimenting, you learn the right way to do and not to do something. Your business will benefit from this greatly.
+Learn business language. Learn from those who are already in business,use google, network. Learn how to write a business letter, make receipts and quotations. Learn all you can learn on this matter.
+Know where things are. Mr. Bitature narrated an old story where Uganda lacked sugar but he knew where sugar was-in Kenya. He got onto the bus and went to Kenya. He purchased lots of sugar and brought it back to Uganda and sold it off and made profit.
+Stay around progressive people. These are people who are achieving their set goals, taking on opportunities and progressing in all areas of their business. You can`t be around such people and not be challenged to be better.
+Read widely. Leaders are readers. Read on your business, read about people in the same business and learn from them.
+Pace yourself. He built Protea a four star hotel to host guests for the common wealth meeting held in Uganda in 2007 and now he has built Naguru Skyz Hotel 10 years later. Don`t be in a rush. Understand your business patterns.
I hope you can apply these principles from Mr. Bitature to your business whether a start-up or one already running.
Share business tips you have applied and have worked for you. Let`s learn together.