Wedding tales Two

On 3rd August,I watched one of my best friends walk down the aisle.My heart literally burst with joy.I was overwhelmed.

I also had the privilege of being highly involved during her wedding preparations as treasurer and coordinator.

Here are a few things that I learnt that could make your wedding preparations easier if your next in line;

+Negotiate good deals from all service providers.It helps when you know them personally or a friend has used them before.All service providers for the wedding we’re friends to either the bride,groom,myself or someone we knew.

+Decor package-The decor package ought to include bride`s bouquet and bridesmaids bouquets as well as bridal cars. Don’t forget to discuss this with your decor person.

+Food tasting and makeup-Plan for food tasting,cake tasting, and make-up trials. You need to know what to expect,make changes with the service providers as you guide them.

+Photography-Meet with your photographer way before the wedding day and agree on what he/she ought to focus on. With the craze of pre-wedding shoots,have a session with your photographer.

+Agree on numbers. Know the number of people you are planning to invite and be strict about it.Remember numbers inflate budgets.

+Ensure the committee is filled with people who can do their job without being reminded.

+Church-Upon agreeing on church,find out what requirements and payments the church needs in order for you to get married.

+Choose a church that is not too far from your reception venue. Agatha and Manzi had their wedding at St.Luke`s Church,Ntinda and reception was at Kabira country club.

+Order of service-Ask the church for an order of service and go ahead and personalize it to your liking. Get your song list that comprises walk in songs for bridal team and the entire church ceremony.

+Pre-marital counselling-Some churches are not keen on pre-marital counseling therefore get a counselor or a couple you respect and start your pre-marital counseling journey.

+MC-Meet with your MC and bounce off ideas for your program.

+Hiring dresses-If you’re hiring bride`s gown and entourage dresses, have your national ID,work ID or driver’s permit.You will need to leave some form of identification in order to have the outfits released to you. Endeavor to return the dresses in good condition.

+Co-ordinate finances with the committee and be in the loop about everything.

+Pay the service providers 70% ASAP and,keep paying up so by wedding day everyone is sorted.And in case they are not, keep in touch with the service providers and PAY THEM BACK. It’s good manners.

What else do you think couples in the preparation stage should pay attention too??

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Taking stock Three

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Making: more time for prayer

Eating: matooke & groundnuts stew(katogo)

Drinking:Lots of water. This has become a ritual.

Reading:Dreams from my father by Barack Obama.

Wanting:To attend Praise Fest hosted by CITAM church in Kenya,and Travis Greene is on the lineup. It’s happening on 30th November, a day after my birthday. Just had to put it out there.😋😋

Playing:Trap house (1-3)sermons by Pastor John Gray

Wasting: no time in petty parties. I can’t deal with petty people.

Creating:content that makes me happy

Wishing:For a getaway in November.

Enjoying:Watching #Crystal1on1 by Crystal A.Newman. Her you tube channel is everything. There is power in telling your story.

Wondering:how we can help our girls stop the self doubt.

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Loving:the season I am in .

Hoping: I understand how much God loves me and it sinks in. He is a good good father.

Marvelling:at how God is always speaking to us.

Smelling: coconut oil (I use it in my hair & on my body)

Wearing: necklaces with literally everything 🤣🤣🤣

Following: Lisa Bevere, this lady is amazing. Her content is good and she is passionate about ladies. This is a setup by God.

Noticing: how readers of the blog, prefer this series to book reviews😂😂

Knowing: God is strategic .He doesn’t waste time,energy, resources. There is a climax to everything you’ve been through

Bookmarking: quotes from Obama’s book, Dreams from my Father.

Opening: up to myself. Learning to be vulnerable with me.Allowing my self to understand me, my pain, my worries, my feelings.They matter

Giggling: at the fact that TV is plastic,what you see is not what you get.

Feeling:loved & excited about November.

Happy November,

Love on Love

Kizza❤️

©Racheal Kizza 2018

Pastor Appreciation Month: Prayer

Take time and pray for your pastor(s) and their families

Worship Wreck

We get to end the month on the same note we started it on – by honouring the ministers in our lives, this time in prayer.

If you’ve just joined this party and have no idea what’s happening, read this first. It’s not too late to get it done. Besides, the heart of this call is to stir up a culture in us that regularly extends gratitude and honour to those God is using to bless us.

As we come to the end of Pastor Appreciation Month, more commonly known as October, I’d like us to take time to pray over these ministers as follows:

  1. Refreshing for them and their ministries – spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically.
  2. Increase in capacity for their families as the ministers continue to grow in ministry. Any minister will tell you that their family is always right there with them for all the ups…

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Wedding tales One:Speeches at weddings

I have attended so many weddings between 2015-2018 sometimes as a brides maids and other times as a support system😂😂. If there is such a thing😅😅

One thing that always bothered me were the speeches.What should be included in the speeches??We have speeches from friends,employers,siblings,parents and the “bagole.” Usually, people give embarrassing stories that speak of the bride/groom`s sex escapades, devious ways,health conditions, diet issues which have no place at the wedding in my opinion.

I was honored to give a speech at my friend’s wedding.For months ,I wondered what to say.I wanted to give funny stories about her,not embarrassing ones though.I believe the aim is not to embarrass but to show her strengths and fun side.

I settled for stories that described and affirmed Agatha.Filled the speech with prophetic declarations over her and her hubby.

I have known Agatha for 13 years and wish her nothing but God’s best. Speech was over within 5 minutes or less. hahaha!!!The siblings and parents speeches definitely affirmed her character.

I loved the theme of the speeches and I believe that all speeches at weddings should be nothing short of that.

Have you given a speech at a wedding before,what did you say?

Brides gown: Penny Bold bridal

Make up : Makeup By Agy

©Racheal Kizza 2018

Go The Distance

There really is no one-size-fits-all template for this. Every relationship is as unique as the two people in it and so is its purpose. Not to mention, different seasons of a relationship and the lives of those in it will require regular adjustments in expectations.

Worship Wreck

The alternative title to this post is: The reality after the hero and the heroine ride/drive off into the sunset. Ha!

Last month for the Marriage Bed series, I wrote on Becoming A Life Partner and the reality that there are no ready-made partners. No one is born pre-configured to be the greatest there ever was at relationships.

Today, I want to go a bit deeper into what it means to work on yourself in the journey to becoming a better life partner.

Foundations

We learn what to give and receive in relationships from the influences around us right from an early age. From being married, having married friends, and being quite involved in ministry in the context of relationships, I can tell you that many things people grapple with in their relationships emanate from their childhood not even their adulthood.

I’ve written about the power of first introduction before…

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Book review 17:The Bell is ringing

Book title :The Bell is ringing

Subtitle:Martin Aliker’s story

Author :Martin Aliker with David Gibbs & Hugh Macmillan

Pages:251

Do you know what happens when you are next to an amazing photographer and have a great book? You`re right. An unplanned photo shoot happens😂😂😂. Slay queens mukikola muutya??Photo shoots are hard work.

I was introduced to this book by a one Benjamin Tumukunde ;who constantly recommends legit books.I sum this book up in one statement: Purpose = influence.

Martin Aliker is born in Acholi land to Lacito Okech in 1928,a prominent chief.As a son of a chief, he gets an opportunity to study at Kings school,Budo(now Kings college,Budo) a school for the royals and later joins Makerere University college -now Makerere University.

Because of his desire to travel to America for further studies,he goes to Need Munger and tells him, “Uganda needs trained people.I also mentioned that I enjoyed ,and was good at,science and that there was not one African dentist in the whole of Uganda.”

He gets into Northwestern University in Chicago which had the best African studies program in the US.He learns from the best in dentistry and later on meets,Camille, a black American woman.The two later get married and move to Uganda. They have four children together and have been married for 56 years.

He was so excited to come back home and practice but found archaic machines in the local hospital until he was advised to go into private practice. His private practice flourished and he was called upon to operate on Dr. Obote when he was shot in the mouth.

He grew in prominence ,it’s like God had ordained for him a path of influence. Heads of states knew him and top CEO’s wanted him to be on their boards.He was forced into exile in Kenya by Amin as a result of his chairmanship at the Uganda Argus-a local newspaper.He thrived in Nairobi and grew his dentistry in a foreign country.

He has a rich story,full of history seen through the eyes of a Ugandan. He speaks of all Ugandan presidents right from Kabaka Mutesa who on his opinion the only uncorrupt president to date because he had it all. Speaks of his growth from dentistry and later politics.

At one point,he was asked to be president but he turned down the offer .Museveni recruited him as a state minister for foreign affairs because of his diplomatic relations.He was sent to Libya to meet Gaddafi ,LRA to meet Kony and his men,UK,US on behalf of Uganda.

He ends the book with retrospection, comparing the Uganda then and the Uganda now. There are major differences,good ones at that and he exposes the gaps.

“I am a Ugandan who was alive and mature when this nation was born on 9th October 1962. It is not a perfect country ,but it is a beautiful country with mostly good people. It is the only country we call our own. Nobody can deport or expel us from this land of ours.”

I recommend this book to every Ugandan. You deserve to know the history of Uganda through the eyes of a Ugandan.You are guaranteed to learn so much about Uganda and the events that have transpired over the years e.g LRA rebel group, the untouchables, education,strong civil service,British colonial rule.

PS; Look at my hair mane.hihi

He brings the story home. This is Uganda’s book.

Photography :Jude Ochen

Book Review 16 : Half Of A Yellow Sun

Book : Half of A Yellow Sun

Author: Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Pages: 433

Half of A Yellow Sun explores what transpired during the civil war between Nigeria-Biafra in the early 1960’s.

Photo courtesy: Acom Victoria

Odeningbo is the ‘revolutionary lover’ ,optimistic and opinionated about Nigeria and the world at large. He is highly educated and has a lover-Olanna,whose beauty is as rare as a gem and equally captivating. Both are educated from “abroad/overseas,” they are nearly not “African enough” until the civil war.

Their house boy Ugwu is the epitome of loyalty,he is ready to please his ‘sah’ and ‘mah’. He is woven intricately into their lives that not even the war can break that bond.

The barriers between servant and sah are not evident,sah puts Ugwu in school and opens him up to possibilities because he believes education is for all and gives one a future.

Olanna like many African women who are unable to conceive quickly as per the mother-in-law`s timeline ,faces the cold truth about ‘another woman.’ She discovers that her lover,impregnated a mere ‘village girl”.She can’t seem to get past her betrayal until her Aunt Ifeka tells her,”you must never behave as if your life belongs to a man.Your life belongs to you and you alone…”

The war changes every one even loyal Ugwu,he takes part in a gang rape of a bar girl and deep within he loathes himself . Olanna`s rich parents leave the country because they are afraid of the war but their children choose to stay.

Kainene and Richard. Kainene is Olanna’s twin sister who seemed unruffled by life’s happenings.She happened to life,life never happened to her.In her steel demeanor,she loves Richard-oyinbo-‘white man’ though she will not say it. She is like the master and he the mistress. She manages her rich father’s businesses and knows who to trade with.

Olanna betrays her in cold blood when she has sex with Richard. Both parties are guilty.Richard was blown away by Olanna`s beauty. Everyone referred to her as the beautiful one and Kainene as the plain one with a steel demeanor

. Kainene tells them both,”it’s unforgivable” and a cloth of unforgiveness envelopes her never to go off but the civil war causes the sisters to forgive each other.They had more conversation during the war than happier times. Olanna suddenly enjoyed her sister’s sarcasm and even laughed along.

Olanna finally had a confidant when it came to ‘should I keep the village girl’s baby”, Kainene seemed to think it’s Noble and Olanna kept the baby. She became a mother to baby and loved her so much that she would do anything for her even during the war.

Kainene unbothered,unruffled woman of steel cannot be found,even after the war is over. I personally screamed and almost threw my book away, how could Adichie end the book just like that.How?? Kainene, strong and unruffled by anything was never found and both Olanna and Richard were never the same.

This book is real, compassionate and insightful.

War in any form is bad,tears families apart,causes wounds and leaves them exposed.War makes for strange alliances .War tears nation’s apart,there is nothing good about war.

Adichie weaves a superb book leaving one stunned and with a gruesome picture of what civil war can do to it’s Nationals.

I recommend the novel to anyone who needs to be reminded that starting a war is not a walk in the park .Whoever needs to be reminded to have a little compassion for their neighbors.whoever needs a stern reminder to be loyal to her people and all friendships.

Got my copy from Turn the Page Africa-https://www.facebook.com/TTPAfrica/

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